Love is in Da Air

The other night I was browsing the home page. This woman wrote how crazy in love she was with her Husband and that they had been married for many years and they still have it going on.

Then some woman commented and said. “Oh really, then he must be having an affair if he is all into you!” Or maybe you are just delusional because it’s BS!!

MINGHIA- WOW~ ~~ !!!!!

The woman that wrote the original post simply replied back and said, “ Sorry you have been hurt!”..

Now that was amazing because if it were me I would have been all over that, so typical Italian!! All in da sauce.

Valentine’s Day applies such unnecessary pressure! It starts at the office when that little 90210 type blonde assistant gets so many flowers delivered. The office is abundant with deliverymen rather then staff.

Then to add insult to injury she yells out and says” If none of ya got flowers I can give ya some of mine”!   Guurrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

She has a date for lunch, dinner and then a late night drink. Minchia.

Then there goes your fictional mind, “what’s wrong with me?” Why don’t I have a date? How come I got no flowers? Valentines’ Day is a commercialized, moneymaking pyramid scheme if ya ask me!

There are some peeps out there that have, shall we say – “FOUND IT”.

The magic and passion. The trust and mutual respect.

The continued longing after years of being together.

Learning the dance of compromise. Supporting your partners needs and dreams.

Trust me, it can happen! This I know for a fact.

I am not trying to get all Zen and cerebral on you here but I am a believer.

With Valentines Day lurking in the wings many things come to mind.

First off, Loves got nothing to do with Valentines Day!

Anyone can get all in the Kool-aid for ONE day – Love is maintaining that stature all the time ~

Some Folks are tainted about Love, some folks are in Love with Love and some Folks settle for Love, thinking that they are past the age limit for ever finding it.

Folks even misplace Sex for Love! Then six months later you wake up, look at that person next to you and say, “what was I thinking!”. Ahhh, the mistake of Lusty love…

And the next time you see a RED FLAD – believe it! Don’t keep changing the color and pretend its friggin mauve. When someone shows you’re his or her True Colors the first time, believe it.

I have heard so many horror stories from both my Male & Female friends. This one chick had 2 cell phones, one for Da Honey and one for da rest!

One friend said she met this guy for coffee at the mall and he bought his daughter? The kid walked around the bookstore kept herself busy and the date was ova, she thought – awwwww he had his kid that night but really wanted to meet me! Until she found out he was married and could not leave the house unless da kid was with him!! You friggin MOOK..

However, not every Mista you meet is Mista Right! He or she may simply be Mista or Ms. for the Moment..

They may be the person that comes into your world to teach you some lessons. Yes I know – how many lessons do we need.

That depends on you! If you find yourself doing the same things every day, excepting different results, well slap yourself now…

So when u meet someone new and you think there is potential there. Plan the moments rather than the future. It’s not based on manipulation or control but rather a need. Controlling the situation is not about being a control freak. It’s basically about controlling insecurities. Some people use strategies of control to compensate for not trusting. Or (what if) yourself into a corner for no good reason at all.

Don’t let all those old behaviors take control. Therefore, do not allow yourself to assume without the facts. Because assumptions manipulate fears and fears drive insecurities and before you know it, You’re in the Land of fear, dread and anxiety. With a season pass to the resort of Disappointment! And none of it has even happened. You are what if’ing. And then believing it!

If you were hurt, find your way home from there and don’t let what could be a good thing pass you by because you are afraid to let them in or sabotage it.

So if you are in Love – God Bless ya for taking a chance!~~

If you are Single – hang in because your Love will arrive shortly when you are ready to let it happen. Trust me~!

If you are Asexual – I hope u have a pet !!!!

So get da bow and arrow and aim for da heart!!  WHOOPS’ , that’s a scene from Goodfella’s.

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY

WHITE RABBIT

Remember this song?

A friend of mine let me hear this when we thought we were hippies...

One pill makes you larger

And one pill makes you small

And the ones that mother gives you

Don't do anything at all

Go ask Alice, when she's ten feet tall

To be honest with you I was never into drugs.

If you have seen my act you will know why J

I did not need anything to take me away from it all. I suppose I was able to do that all on my own through my music and comedy.

The last thing I wanted was to be out of control ... I wanted to be in control of my creativity.

Addiction comes in all forms – drugs, booze, and bad behavior.

Some folks think they have conquered one addiction only to replace it with another. There is also a new game in town called self-medication.  Wow, that’s a magic carpet ride with a prescription plan.

Even meds the Doctor gives you can take you there in a Nano second if you have that abusive tendency.

Sadly people will get all preachy about kicking the habit de jour and then start hitting da pills to get a high any way they can.

Why?

I suppose they have not truly dealt with the issues that got them there in the first place.

You can go to all the shrinks, life coaches and Gurus in the world and still you bull shit them all only to continue to feed the need.

The sad part is that the people who care about you are left not only holding the bag but also dealing with your incoherent bullshit. They will deny that they asked Alice and turned into the White Rabbit.

Yet you still forgive them and think you are helping in a strange way.

News flash--------- you are not.

You want to help them? Then disengage! Call their Doctor! Rat them out.

If not consider yourself addicted to bullshit.

You get to listen to their drama, there “ nobody likes me” – their paranoia the destroyer. You really think you are helping them?

NO!

I had a conversation with a friend of mine today that shared some issues about her brother. It was this roller coaster ride of bullshit and she never bought a ticket to the ride but was in it because she was the only one who would listen.

She told me that she was done supporting his habit and allowing him to use her as the soundboard.

It’s hard ting to do – but she did it.

I found myself in the same situation and did the very same thing.

It’s called boundaries~~~~~~~

The deal with boundaries is that one you make them you cant break them. Once they see they can manipulate you back into the land of the misfit toys it will start all over again.

So say what you mean – and mean what you say....

Remember that other saying, “ Love means never having to say you are sorry!”

Well that sure proved to be bullshit J

Just because you love someone does not mean you have to kiss his or her ASS...

Love is about TRUTH..

So stand you ground and stop being Alice.....

Warrior of the light Paulo Coelho

Warrior of the light Paulo Coelho - Thank you

Many years ago a co-worker/friend of mine always talked of Life. We spoke of many things in detail and argued on the why's and why not's. I always preached to her the words of Paulo Coelho until one day she had her Ah-Ha moment.

 As the years went by I was so very touched when she said that I made her see many things differently..
Today she sent me this!!! I smiled and realized that its all about making an impact.. 
Thank you Madi for this..

Warrior of the light Paulo Coelho



The magic instant 

we have to take risks. We can only truly understand the miracle of life when we let the unexpected manifest itself.
Every day – together with the sun – God gives us a moment in which it is possible to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day we try to pretend that we don’t realize that moment, that it doesn’t exist, that today is just the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if you pay attention, you can discover the magic instant. It may be hiding at the moment when we put the key in the door in the morning, in the silence right after dinner, in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. This moment exists – a moment when all the strength of the stars passes through us and lets us work miracles.

Happiness is at times a blessing – but usually it’s a conquest. The magic instant helps us to change, drives us forward to seek our dreams. We shall suffer and go through quite a few difficult moments and face many a disappointment – but this is all transitory and inevitable, and eventually we shall feel proud of the marks left behind by the obstacles. In the future we will be able to look back with pride and faith.
Poor are those who are afraid of running risks. Because maybe they are never disappointed, never disillusioned, never suffer like those who have a dream to pursue. But when they look back – for we always look back – they will hear their heart saying: “What did you do with the miracles that God sowed for your days? What did you do with the talent that your Master entrusted to you? You buried it deep in a grave because you were afraid to lose it. So this is your inheritance: the certainty that you have wasted your life.”
Poor are those who hear these words. For then they will believe in miracles, but the magic instants of life will have already passed.

We must listen to the child that we once were, and who still lives within us. This child understands about magic instants. We can muffle his sobbing, but we can’t hush his voice.
If we aren’t reborn, if we don’t see life again with the innocence and enthusiasm of childhood, then there is no more sense to living.
There are many ways to commit suicide. Those who try to kill their body offend God’s law. Those who try to kill their soul also offend God’s law, although their crime is less visible to the eyes of man.
Let us be heedful of what the child within us has to say. Let’s not feel ashamed of it. Let’s not allow it to feel afraid, because it’s lonely and is scarcely ever heard.
Let’s allow the child within us to take the reins of our existence a little. This child says that one day is different from another.

Let’s make the child feel loved again. Let’s please this child – even if it means acting in a way that we’re not used to, even if it seems foolish in the eyes of others.
Remember that the wisdom of men is madness before God. If we listen to the child we bear in our soul, our eyes will shine once more. If we don’t lose contact with this child, we won’t lose contact with life.
Let’s live all the magic instants of 2014!

Love

There is always someone in the world waiting for someone else, whether in the middle of the desert or in the heart of some big city. And when these two people’s paths cross and their eyes meet, the whole of the past and the whole of the future lose all importance, and there only exists that moment and that incredible certainty that everything under the Sun was written by the very same Hand. The Hand that awakens Love and creates a sister soul for everyone who works, rests and seeks treasures under the Sun. Were it not for this, the dreams of the human race would make no sense.

MERRY EVERYTHING

     

'Tis the season to be Jolly!  Well, here we are again, that time of the year when Christmas spirit fills the air and takes control of our emotions.

It's a new day! This year was filled with so many wonderful, odd and strange happenings. 2013 has given us Obamacare, more terrorism, trains sliding off tracks killing hundreds. Obamacare website blow up, people walking around with semi-automatic guns shooting at random. Nelson Mandela passed, a man built on Freedom.

The Icecaps are melting so is it now ok to say Climate Change! HELLO!

 We had things in our lives that gave us joy and losses that will never forget. The stock market is oscillating like a bad ceiling fan and Freddie Mack and Fannie May finally got divorced, but unfortunately their offspring is still hitting our housing market.  Good people are losing their homes, jobs are scarce and times are truly hard.  And now I have to deal with the Holidays?  Yes, it’s called Life and you deal with it and learn and cry and laugh and love. These are the times that make your spirit move, even if you get pissed about it, at least it’s still some kind of action!! Further more I am so over this political correctness shit. Look in my world we called it CHRISTMAS !! I am not doing the Happy Holiday thing ~ I love all people and respect what ever it is that moves ya but don’t mess with my CHRISTMAS TREE!!!

If you eliminate the stress of your own economic blues like, no money, shopping, extra bills, office holiday protocol and just dream of those sugarplums dancing in your head you can really feel it.  It's all about you're attitude and being open to let the power of being positive surround you.

Things seem more tolerable at this time of the year.  You get to see family and friends.  You even break down and buy something for that one person at the office that is truly annoying, unless she/he has been laid off.  Hummmmmmmm.

So back to the spirit of it all.  Yes, the spirit can be very powerful!  The spirit and inspiration of the season can truly lift you.  Just look into children's eyes when they see a Christmas tree or Santa for the second time.  Think of the sound of the Salvation Army bells.  At times they might appear to sound annoying but to me they sound like the bells of Notre Dame.  Those bells break my heart for those less fortunate and yet they make me feel like I'm blessed.  Think of waking up with your Lover, your Partner, and your Friend!  Which by the way all should be the same person.  Just in case some of you had more than just sugarplums dancing in your head.

Think of the magic associated with the Holiday.  Even though the Holiday season has been commercialized to support the growth of our economy there is still magic and spirit left.

You gotta believe!  OK, granted I stopped believing in Santa at least 5 years ago.  But I still do believe in the goodness of people and the love of friends and family.

That good intentions bring good things. That karma can bite you in the ass!   Believing that the Love of your Life is out there!  Oh and yes, finding that Love, and the magic that happens when you look at each other.

I believe that it all matters and that it all counts.  I believe that George Bailey might have been given an angel but it was his spirit that blossomed and gave him the momentum to realize that Life matters.  And that the people we touch at times can be truly touched, just by the mere jester of a random act of kindness.

I believe that risk can be a walk in the park if you feel supported and loved and inspired and all you need to do is imagine your dreams happening and they will!  But you must continue to have that imagery everyday as to manifest it. If you believe, you’re dreams will happen.

I'm sure there will be some Scrooges in your life who will say, “ Oh please!"  And what if this doesn't happen?  Or that?  Then what!!  And what about retirement?  You need to stop being Peter Pan and grow up!  Thank goodness for those Scrooges!!!

 Because one thing is for sure, you know that you never what to grow up to be, a Scrooge!

The world does indeed need balance.  We need those left of center type artistic folks that think and live the Bohemian way and continue to dream and create. We need the Scrooge type centered folks so that when we artist types finally make some money we know who to give it to for investments.

The unfortunate thing about Christmas Spirit is that it's seasonal and that's what sad.  If we could just hold on to the feeling of magic and save some snowflakes for the rest of the year we might still feel joy all year long.  Do we really need a tree and lights and Dasher and Dancer to feel that!  Hey Snow Happens!  And hence, the Spirit starts to dwindle and before you know it, it's just another manic Monday.

So find a way to surround yourself with positive people and good friends.  Throw your arms around the person you love and thank the heavens that you have found them.  Oh yes, and by the way, let them know it every day!

 At times even your dysfunctional family can be soothing.  Hummmmmm, did I say that?  Well, maybe not soothing, perhaps just a tad amount of comfort when you look at them and thank God that you turned out differently!  However I still look forward to the traditions!  Like bobbing for anti-depressants- taking bets on who will leave early on Christmas Eve and who will show up late!  And my favorite- the eating of the Cannoli wreath.

Remember, you can make money but you cannot make time!  So make sure you think about how your time is spent and not your how you spend your money!  Remember how nice it is to lean over and say “good night my Love”!  Think about how good it feels to be happy!  And if you have found your soul mate, thank God everyday and if you have not, remember that they will be arriving shortly.

And for those who are miserable or self absorbed or stuck in the patterns of life that denote poor form. Feel bad for them but don't invite them over.  Keep them at bay and do not feed the drama.  A friend once told me, “LIVE LARGE MY FRIEND” because no one on their deathbed ever wished they had more money, just more time.

Keep that Spirit alive.  Find your happy thought.

As a matter of fact for those of you who are reading this.  I can close my eyes and think of at least one thing that you have either said or done that has make me smile.

George Baily said,”everytime a you hear a bell ring an Angel gets

Calamari- or something like that….

So with that said Happy Holidays!  Let it Snow!  May your days be Merry and Bright!  Have your self a Merry Little Christmas and keep the Yuletide Gay! (whoop whoop) May the Spirit of Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, (did I get them all?) be in your day, today and for all of your days.

Merry Everything