SHAKIN OR STIRRED

The east coast had its first fling with tremors of an Earthquake.  I was in the home of some friends and we all felt it, except my friend’s husband did not? I was like WHAT?

You did not feel it? You did not get dizzy? Are you dizzy when the earth does not move!

Being a hopeful romantic for me it was like that feeling when you meet “THE ONE”, minus the dizziness.

Ya know, I feel the earth move unda my feet, I feel the sky come tumbling down, when eva your around.

Just think of the titles of Love songs. Till there was you. Something, Love is a many splendored thing, Hold me – Kiss me. I’ve grown accustomed to your face.

 Then it gets a little weird – songs like, you belong to me? Will you still love me tomorrow? You’re so vain! If ya like it then you betta out a ring on it! I’m just lookin for some Tuch! Then we have the codependent songwriter, Gloria Estefan with her hit-“Don’t wanna lose you now”.

Love songs mimic the roller coaster of how some relationships are. As a songwriter not only do I draw on my own feelings but things that people have told me.

Its funny how some people are afraid of Love. Some people are in love with the idea of Love and then we have the narcissists that just love themselves. They walk around singing. I’ve got a crush on me!!

Today in the NOW I can truly understand the fear of love. I used to be one of those people that were emotionally unavailable. Never let go and always knew I would never be devastated. Ahhhhhh there was the key- don’t open up and let go and ya cant get hurt.

After many years of exploring the WHY”S of this I finally was able to really feel the love and not just write about it in a song.

Was it scary? Shit yea! However I knew I would rather take that chance and have Love then to just write about Love.

I wanted to take risks with my emotions so that I would evolve and learn how to manage my own insecurities rather then have them manage me. I guess that’s being a control freak but in a good way.

I think that anyone who is in Love and has indeed let go of his or her shit to allow all of the goodness in is a Hero. It takes guts to give it all up to someone else and not feel the need to protect.

What’s the worse that can happen? Ya get hurt? So get over it and know that maybe that person was sent to you for a reason. Maybe you would have spent the rest of your life holding back and never letting love in. Trust me, you will find it again. The magic and passion inside will draw you to the ONE that will fulfill all your dreams.

Look, I’m not living in LA LA land where I am telling you that its all a bed of roses. It takes work to have a relationship.

But here is the trick! shushhhh don’t tell everyone. Here goes.

There are 3 people in your relationship! Ok Wise Ass, that’s not what I mean. Three meaning you, your person and the relationship.

If you look at it that way you will always make sure you treat the relationship as a person, one that needs attention, to be nurtured and to be loved. If you don’t you will just let life take over and fall into the doldrums of ho-hum.

Before you know it the magic and passion is gone and you are living with your best friend. Hey don’t get me wrong; you should be living with your best friend, your Honey and your lover. However they should all be the same personJ

If you are single and dealing with all the games and shit that is out there – DON’T GIVE UP! It’s a test, I swear. Just make sure you keep your eyes open for red flags and the first time you see one, Run Forest Run. Don’t keep making the flag different colors because you want to give it more chance. Don’t settle, don’t allow someone to change whom your core person is or what you stand for. If they don’t love you for who and what you are you don’t need um. You don’t have to lose yourself to be in a relationship, you just have lose yourself in the relationship.

The last thing ya need is to fall in love with Jimmy 2 Times and be checkin his cell phone for Gumada’s. However if the only thing Jimmy 2 Times does is do everything twice it could be a good deal J

So I felt all of this because I felt the earth move unda my feet.. As for me I wasn’t Shakin, I was StirredJ

So claim your love song!

I cant help fallin in love with you!

Baby I’m yours!

Every breath you take!

Do ya think I’m sexy!

You can leave your hat on!

Mine is, I saw you, in a dark and crowded room, an illusive glance you gave, in the City of Light!