Available ~ Unavailable - Taken not Stirred!!

Available ~ Unavailable - Taken not Stirred!!

In listening to some of my friend relationship issues it seems like we all balance the dance of the Unavailable or Available.

I am a person that believes in magic and passion and romance. The kind that you feel when a stranger walks into a crowed room and ya just know it :)

Yet we still have a lifetime of baggage that we carry around that is invisible to the naked eye. If we knew about this baggage perhaps we would be more cautious but that my friends is the delicate dance of love.

It’s called "Letting Go!"

When you let go and become available emotionally great things happen, that is unless of course you are dating an emotionally unavailable person. Then you better strap on the seatbelt cause you are in the roller coaster of love and you are not even sure you meet the height requirement.

For years you were able to hide behind this shroud, never really letting people in.

You were really good at one nightstands because you could leave !!!!!!!!

Once in a while you would even meet someone that would call you on your shit. Letting you know how much you are missing out on because of your need to self protect. You were merely a prophylactic with no penetration.

Premature imagination~

So you decided that it was important to you to find a way to let go and let love in. You did all the right things, went to a shrink, self-reflection, and meditation and even chanted once in a while. Then the day came! It happens without thought or intention. You just meet someone and you feel the rush of fear fall out of your body. You did it – YOU LET GO ~~

This is what it feels like to be available. You can actually feel it leave and guess what you are still ok!

But here is the dangerous part. If the person you let go for is slightly unavailable you feel all the things that scared the shit of of you in the first place. The things that made you want to be unavailable. So now you really know what it feels like to be open. You hurt, you cry, you get angry. You fight, you yell. The very things you ran from are now you’re day to day.

It’s then that you realize: “now I know why I held back!” Who wants to feel this shit!

Abort! Abort!

Nah, you really don’t want to go back to not felling, do you?

I would rather feel a thousand hurts then not feel anything at all.

That’s what it’s all about Alfie~

Never go back always move forward and never stop yourself from feeling.

So get taken by someone not stirred.